XGH blogged on the supposed shidduch crisis this morning.
Here was my comment to his post:
How about this: There is no shidduch crisis!
The "shidduch crisis" is simply that the frum community doesn't understand changing times and that the national trend is for people to get married later.
So the average age of marriage has gone up a few years. Big deal! Men & women both have jobs and careers these days. But of my single friends from my days on the Upper West Side, most of them are married with children. Yes, they got married in their 30's, but that's not a crisis. They became more well rounded people in that time, they traveled, got advanced degrees, contributed to their communities, etc.
The only reason people think there's a shidduch crisis is that the charedi community can't wrap its head around the notion of people getting married a little later. In places like the UWS, that's not a problem, but the big losers of this attitude are the late 20-something women living in their parents homes in Brooklyn because they were never taught that they could do something with their lives other than wait for the exclusive goal of marriage.
See my related posts here and here.
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